Just a thought

If you don't want to receive a reply that upsets you in reference to a post made on a very public blog then maybe you shouldn't have a blog or at least not one that allows comments.

No one wants to read bad things about themselves or receive posts that contain contrary opinions about one's hopes, thoughts, ideas. It is especially unsettling when the posts are by people you don't even know or who choose anonymity but it seems to me it goes with the territory.

In my experience and observation people one knows WELL probably have the same unflattering and un-supportive comments rattling around in their heads as strangers, they just don't tell YOU about it to your face. Instead they tell you what you want to hear then go off and trash talk amongst themselves.

I was a BIG fan of Queer As Folk (the American version) in particular the character Brian Kinney. There were some similarities between that character's history and my own which made my identification even stronger. If I were a gay man I would want to be Brian Kinney. He was the big, tough, hot Ad-Exec whose personal motto was "No apologies-No Excuses." In one episode he made the comment : "There are only 2 kinds of straight people in this world. Those who hate you to your face and those who hate you behind your back."

That sounds dark but I think it is the cold hard truth about many things. I think any thought, action or idea on which one takes a strong stance, with the exception of very close friends who share your beliefs, some will oppose you to your face and the rest will oppose you behind your back. It is the last that scares me more than any public out cry. I fear an anonymous comment a lot less than the smiling faces of my colleagues, and "friends" who "support me" while being careful to never share what they feel or think. Worse yet is when they doge full disclosure because they don't want to " upset" you.

That's my thought for today.